Coping with Grief

Grief is a normal response to any loss.  Each person’s grief journey is unique, yet the process of grief is similar regardless of what was lost:  a loved one, a relationship, your health or your loved one’s health, your home, your identity or role caused by changes in your family, your job, your income, and hopes and dreams.  The intensity of your grief is directly related to the strength of your attachment to what was lost.

Our lives today are very hurried and fast paced.  Grieving has a slow pace.  Grieving cannot be hurried or avoided.  No matter how much you want your grief to go away, it will not.  Due to our culture and the lack of experience with grief, you will have caring people say to you, “It has been three months…You need to get on with your life…Get out more…Have some fun.”  Your supervisor may also think your should be over this and get frustrated because you are not concentrating, you’re making more mistakes, you’re forgetting things, or you are too slow and not finishing things in a timely manner.

The purpose of the handouts in this series is to help you understand grief and that you are not alone is this new unwanted journey.  Recognize that everyone will not experience all that is described or suggested in these handouts.  Everyone’s journey through grief is different.  In the handout Grief and Its Phases, not everyone goes through every phase nor do they experience them in the order presented. 

Grief Support Group

The Employee Assistance Program in Holmes Student Center room 701 is a safe place to express your grief when it unexpectedly appears.  We are usually available and we have a waiting room if you want to be by yourself.  If you need to talk with someone, call us at 753-9191.