Coping with Anger

The Coping with Anger Series provides information and tools that help you manage your anger so you can make choices about how you respond.  Anger is no longer being tolerated in the workplace.  A relationship takes time to build and one very angry outburst harms the relationship or may cause you to lose it.

The Employee Assistance Program (815-753-9191) offers an Anger Management Assessment and ten-week Individual Program.  Anger management is about mastering new skills which takes practice and time.  The outline for the Anger Management Program is adapted to fit the needs of the individual.   This program is built around three books: 

  • The Anger Control Workbook by Matthew McKay and Peter Rogers
  • Taking Charge of Anger by Robert Nay
  • The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

The handouts focus on some of the important skills needed to manage your anger so you choose when and how to respond. The Anger Control Workbook has additional useful  worksheets to help you understand your anger and master new skills.  Taking Charge of Anger has an anger assessment instrument and is more descriptive about anger, its impact and how to manage it.  The Four Agreements help you detach from your beliefs and triggers by understanding how not to personalize and make assumptions. 

To understand the purpose and usefulness of the handouts listed, read the “Using Anger Management Handouts.”  These handouts will assist you in understanding your anger and your irritations that contribute to your difficult interactions with others. Changing how to respond to irritating or difficult interactions takes less time.   Although the handouts and books may be useful, it is also important to discuss the material with an Employee Assistance Professional who can assist you in further understanding and applying  the material to you and your particular situation.  For additional assistance in applying these handouts, contact the Employee Assistance Program at 815-753-9191.

For additional information, visit  and search for anger management. This website also has an anger assessment.


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